Chaos is a word we attribute to situations which are beyond our grasp or comprehension.
I’m sure we’ve all had a time in your lives, when simply put, just felt like a series of unfortunate events.
In these times of disruption, we tend to ask ourselves, “Why did this have to happen?!”
We like continuity in our lives. We like order, it’s almost as if we demand it.
Just when we think we have grabbed life by the horns, BOOM! Blind sighted and all, “chaos” derails our personal expectations and normalcy.
And, while continuity in life is an illusion, we still tend to believe that when things go awry…we are truly in the midst of pure chaos.
I, out of all people, must constantly be reminded that, everything happens for a reason…in its own timing.
Oftentimes, when an unexpected outcome is presented to us, our immediate reaction is to respond. To sit idly and not “do” is something many of us are not comfortable with. But our tendency in wanting to know everything that’s going on is detrimental to our mental health. We grow impatient and forget to merely experience this unknown state. Sometimes we have to learn to leave things alone and let whatever “that reason” is, manifest higher order in our lives.
If it were not for the bad, we would not know its contrast.
For us Millennials, I think the most prevalent example of this is in our post grad careers. Many of us are still trying to climb the totem pole. Sometimes a killer opportunity seems to knock at our door and… suddenly, it’s gone. We question it. We then self doubt. And more likely than not, we begin to panic.
But as we all know, there is an ebb and flow of life. We will never remain in this stagnant state. As much as we’d like to know everything that life will throw at us, it is simply not realistic. We have to trust in the process. Once we learn how to put forth trust in these trying time, I think ultimately, we will begin to see that all things work together for the better good…BUT only to those who work with them.
Once we learn how to truly go with the flow, we will begin to understand life’s rhythm, working and resting along side of it. When things seem chaotic and out of control, we have to remember that God or whatever higher power you believe in, is still in charge. We sometimes worry about what’s happening to us because we genuinely do not know what is best. But God (or whoever) does.
And although, I am still struggling with this understanding, I think ultimately, once attained, we see the pieces of the puzzle begin to come together, each unfolding into a meaningful future.
We have to take the good with the bad. Our victories and struggles are essentially building blocks into a destined life.
Once we accept and reflect upon this “chaos” we will usually see why it had to happen the way it did!
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life”- Steve Jobs
2 thoughts on “No such thing as Chaos?!”
“Our tendency in wanting to know everything that’s going on is detrimental to our mental health.” — This resonated REALLY hard with me. Growing up, I had two main role models who were radically different in almost every way. One person had a “go with the flow” kind of personality, and was (and still is!) generally a very happy person. The other was (and still is…) a very controlling type, always wanting to know what’s going on and getting very angry when things don’t go exactly as she wanted. Needless to say she is also not a very happy person. I never made the connection there though, about their differing levels of needing to control being connected with how satisfied they are with their lives.
“But as we all know, there is an ebb and flow of life. We will never remain in this stagnant state. As much as we’d like to know everything that life will throw at us, it is simply not realistic.” — This is also something I am coming to terms with now, the concept of impermanence. I’m curious though, do you meditate? 🙂 I was first introduced to “impermanence” through a meditation app I use called Calm.
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Whoa! That is quite interesting that they remain to be that way! For me, it is definitely a work in progress but I am hoping to get to a place of acceptance for everything that life brings upon me.
I do try to meditate but I need a lot of practice, haha. Do you find it helpful?